To be weak

are not a shame To be weak

The confusion of concepts often leads to violation of logic of thought process. For the last years I saw many publications in which speaks how it is necessary to communicate with disabled people as to them to belong that it is possible to speak to them, and that it is impossible, as it is necessary to call them, and as does not follow. It is necessary to rejoice that society really is interested in these problems. Such phrases, as «special people», «people are familiar with limited possibilities» to the majority of ordinary citizens … Only, alas, the tolerance is replaced with the tolerance, many at all do not see a difference between these words. And though the word "tolerance" literally also is translated, as "tolerance", in Russian these words – not synonyms. The tolerance is a patience (forgive for a tautology), this empathy, and tolerance … In medicine tolerance is an inability of an organism to resist to viruses. As practice shows, the social phenomenon called by this word, quite corresponds to medical definition.

Our attempts in every possible way to bypass in conversations the word "disabled person" became already a platitude. It would seem, it is clear – so we try to form at ourselves more careful attitude to these people. But chicken though was before egg, from eggs after all there are new chickens – and words used by us influence our thinking (and not just on the contrary). Recently I have learnt that in the USA at advocates of tolerance already and the word "old man" is declared by the politically incorrect – it seems as it is discrimination on an age sign. Besides that it in principle the nonsense, here is present also the certain perverted logic: under the pretext of care of feeling of elderly people the thought is carried out what to be the old man is it is a shame, badly. With disabled people the same. The word "invalidus" is literally translated with Latin, as "weak", that is "weak". Any other value this loan word neither in Russian, nor in any scientific discipline has no (unlike the word "tolerance"). That is a problem only in our relation to the phenomenon. In society where the competition – the main engine of development, weak it is a shame to be. Anyway, but the person respect depending on that, how many it can give (I emphasise: not that can give, and how many). Actually, therefore, for example, in the secular humanist with such work accepts idea of a ban of abortions: in secular society the relation to the person consumer and consequently protection of human rights in such society – first of all, protection of the rights of the consumer. However in this society after all there is any moral, let and at the stopped look. Therefore it is considered that that weak to whom after all have allowed to be born or survive (in a case when this weakness acquired), it is necessary to help. And I at all do not want to belittle that real help which to disabled people appears. But pay attention at least to recent events in Russia. How many years understanding people speak about need of creation for disabled people of the available environment? But in order that about it the prime minister of the country has started talking, victories of Russians on Paralympic games – that is were necessary to no other than force demonstration.

And now about the most widespread euphemisms connected with a subject of disability. Here the first: «people with limited possibilities». Unlike the word "disabled person" specifying that the person is weaker than us (and in normally option it assumes more careful to it the relation), LSOV – in fact the senseless phrase. Unless there are people with unlimited possibilities? Second characteristic example: «special people». Here we see already a certain self-abasement of rather healthy people before disabled people: they supposedly special, and all the others – not special, ordinary. But each person is unique. We also help disabled people not because they talented or unusual but because it need our help. To need the help is it is not a shame.

Some enthusiasts, both experts, and the volunteers who are sincerely directing to a lot of time and efforts to disabled people, like to emphasise in every possible way that their wards – not patients. Especially it concerns mental disabled people, people with features of mental development. Such good rush of enthusiasts too is clear, but at once two dirty tricks here are covered. First, besides it turns out what to be the patient it is a shame, humiliating. But really you are humiliated by cold or foot dislocation? In the same way for the person should not be humiliating and much heavier violations, in that number and congenital. The relation to an illness, physical or sincere as to something shameful about what it is awkward to speak directly is one more defect of modern consciousness, attempt to be fenced off from reality to distract from thoughts on a povrezhdyonnost of a human nature, on death. Secondly, if the person not the patient, according to the logic of it and it is not necessary to treat. Meanwhile, such is that it it is possible if not completely to normalise a condition of many mental disabled people, cardinally to improve by means of treatment, and various rehabilitation programs should carry out a supporting role. One of the most typical examples: autism and frustration of an autistichesky range. A large number of feature and documentary films about autism have involved in a problem public attention, but on the other hand unduly mythologised this type of mental violations. Now in public consciousness there is an image of the autist – the somewhat eccentric infantile genius with communicative problems. That fact that autism is an illness from which the person daily suffers, is perceived with doubt even many parents of autists. And when they are reached by information that the health of the autist can be improved considerably by means of a special diet and all the rest that is included into terapevtichsky system under the name biomedical, others do not try even to try – after all their child allegedly not sick, but simply special.

The list of similar verbal manipulations can be continued – at desire the reader can to analyse itself also many expressions which it uses even from good motives. The idea that tolerance (not to confuse to tolerance) does not help us to solve this or that problem, and withdraws from its decision, equalising in our consciousness norm and deviations. In addition to it that there are our conversations on mercy if we subconsciously consider a deviation as something humiliating and we try to hide it by means of streamline verbal designs? At last I will tell about such phenomenon, as numerous recommendations to us, «not special» as it is possible and as it is impossible to address to the disabled person. Undoubtedly, in all these recommendations there is a sensible grain – we need to learn not to ignore people with deviations, to be careful in communication with them, to choose expressions. not to offend. The trouble only that the huge number of our fellow citizens does not read all these articles and at all does not know about existence of the corresponding Internet editions. And we speak about integration of disabled people into society. But whether who learns integrated to live in society such what it is, and quietly to react on clumsy, silly, and at times both offensive, and aggressive statements of some unprepared members of this society?

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